Friday, November 11, 2011
Effword
"What did you just say?" I gasped . . . taken aback.
"I didn't say the f-word . . . I said effword.
"But Ethan, you implied that you meant the f-word . . . and that's naughty language. You can't say that."
"But I didn't say the word, I said effword."
"But still, it's as if you are saying it, and it's inappropriate to talk that way, so don't even say effword, ok?"
"OK . . . "
Saturday, September 3, 2011
Laces
Ethan had requested shoes with Velcro closure, but I honestly thought the sneakers at Footlocker with Velcro closure looked dorky, so I encouraged him to get the ones with laces.
He reminded me that he doesn't know how to tie his shoes, so I assured him that I would teach him.
Well, he hasn't yet put on his new sneaks. But Colby has. And Colby asked me to teach him how to tie. So we had a brief lesson yesterday.
Then today, as I was right in the middle of the hardest part of my Jillian Michaels kettle bell workout DVD, Colby decided to put on his new sneakers . . . and of course . . . wanted to learn how to tie.
So, being the workout fanatic that I am, I appointed Quinn to the task.
I casually observed the lesson, and thought it was going well until Colby suddenly lay on the floor, sucking his thumb.Waterfall
Art
After breakfast, Colby joined me on the deck outside as I soaked in a little late morning warmth and sun. As I stretched my arms upward and leaned back in my chair for a stretch, he laughed. "Mom, you have hair in your armpits. Just like Daddy."
I glanced at my underarms. "That's stubble."
"Stubble? Well, it's not long like Daddy's. His is like this long (as he demos a lengthy lock of axillary fluff on himself).
Then he looks at my legs and says, "See, you have it here, too."
I glance at my stubbly legs. I can't argue.
"And sometimes, Mommy, when you kiss me, there's something pokey on my chin, coming from your chin."
So I ask him to look at my chin and tell me if he sees anything.
"No, there's nothing there. But sometimes it feels pokey on me."
That would be the 2 stubborn errant hairs that recur every several weeks. What he doesn't know is that I plucked them out on Thursday.
Later on, we joined Bridget and her kids for a visit to Franconia Sculpture Park. I hadn't been in a couple of years and was pleased to see some new art.
Like this:
This one was particularly interesting to me - I know Old Orchard Beach - it's in Maine - and I think I "got" the artistic expression. Let's just say that OOB isn't the most natural of scenes.
Thursday, September 1, 2011
Foodie
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These, on the other hand, were deeee-licious. We made these cupcakes for Ms. Becky and the daycare kids last week. She's taken care of us for 5 years . . . in fact, she's had Colby since he was 7 weeks old.
Thursday, August 25, 2011
It's a Bird, It's a Plane, It's -

"Pull-up Man."
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
Personal Bitch Session
The first event occurred in the Target parking lot. I was unloading my cart at the rear of my vehicle. Cars flanked mine . . . no big deal. I had an armful of items that I wanted to place in the front seat, and being that the cart corral was on the passenger side of the vehicle, 2 spots down from mine, I decided to open the passenger door and place my cinnamon sugar pretzel, diet Coke, and the kids treats in the front that way. I opened the door, and it made the usual deep squeak sound it makes. I placed the items in the seat, and as I stepped back and turned to slam the door closed, I noticed a woman in the driver seat of the car parked next to mine, looking at me with a rather ugly expression. I didn't think it was directed at me, but it occurred to me that she maybe wanted to get out of her car and was pissed she had to wait, so I just continued on my way, returned to the rear of my vehicle to get the cart and take it to the corral. As I walked back toward my car, the woman from the car was standing at the rear of mine. I looked up and started to say, "Hi," and nod, when she laid into me.
"YOU NEED TO BE MORE CAREFUL!" she yelled.
"What are you talking about?" I asked.
"YOU NEED TO WATCH WHAT YOU'RE DOING!"
"Um . . .excuse me?" I asked
"YOU SLAMMED YOUR CAR DOOR INTO MINE!"
"I don't think I did."
"YES YOU DID!"
"Im sorry you think that, but I know I didn't."
"YES-----YOU DID!"
"Did it leave a mark? Because if it did I would want take care of it . . ."
"NO! IT DIDN'T LEAVE A MARK! YOU JUST NEED TO BE MORE AWARE! AND BE CAREFUL!"
By now she had me pissed off. And feeling a little aggressive.
"You know what? You need to calm down" I said.
"YOU NEED TO BE CAREFUL!" she hollered.
"You need to be nicer." I said in a raised voice. Yup, that's what I said. That's the best I could do. And with that, I got in my car, turned the key in the ignition, and drove away.
The second event involves negotiating a slight change in parenting schedule to accommodate my mom's visit in September that was slightly more challenging than I'd anticipated. But that's all I'll say about it. It's resolved and that's what matters.
Then we arrive home, and I have a nice chat with my neighbor in the driveway for a few minutes. When I get inside, I flip through my mail. I find a letter from the condo Association:
"Dear Midwest Maineac (name change for confidentiality),
It has come to the attention of the Board of Directors that you have made a modification to your property (blah blah blah)..... "Decorations installed on exterior. Please remove your holiday decorations" . . . In the interest of maintaining the architectural integrity of the Association and the values of all our houses, the Board of Directors requests that you address this issue immediately.
(Then the bylaws are listed) . . . (blah blah blah) if you wish to contest the alleged violation and avoid imposition of fines, you must request a hearing before the Board of Directors in writing, within ten days of the date of this letter . . .(blah blah blah).
WHAT!? Architectural integrity? Alleged violation?? Fines?!?!?!
I have a freakin' single string of summer patio lights on my railing from Target.
Good GOD!
What next? Are there too many weeds in my planters? Are the cushions on my chairs too faded?
I mean really, neighbors. C'mon!
And that concludes my day.
Stay classy, Hugo.
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
Mom Quiz
Prior to my appointment, I shared this information with a dear friend of mine and her response was, "You do so much with your kids. Stop "shoulding" on yourself."
I thought that was pretty funny.
So anyway, my therapist suggested I give each of my kids a sort of "Mom Quiz" as a way to see what their responses would be. She said, for example, that if I asked them, "What is Mommy's favorite thing to do?" and they responded, "Sit on the couch and text on your phone," that maybe it would help clue me in to where they are at with their perspective of my attention and fulfillment of their needs.
So tonight I quizzed each one of my children alone, individually. I was surprised at how enthusiastically and seemingly straightforward they answered the questions. Especially Ethan. Well, actually Ethan didn't surprise me. He's pretty aware and doesn't sugar coat anything. I like that.
Mom Quiz
1. What is something mom always says to you?
Quinn: hi
Ethan: No and I love you
Colby: I love you
2. What makes mom happy?
Quinn: When we don't fight
Ethan: When we be good kids
Colby: Being good
3. What makes mom sad?
Quinn: When animals die
Ethan: When we don't be good kids
Colby: Being naughty
4. How does your mom make you laugh?
Quinn: tickling
Ethan: you never really make me laugh . . . unless you tickle me
Colby: by doing something funny like telling a knock knock joke
5. What was your mom like as a child?
Quinn: I don't know . . . shy?
Ethan: I don't know! A good kid?
Colby: A kid, a girl, she was nice
6. How old is your mom?
Quinn: 38
Ethan: around 30
Colby: 12
7. How tall is your mom?
Quinn: 10 ft 3 inches
Ethan: 38 inches (after measuring me with his fingers)
Colby: 16 feet.
8. What is her favorite thing to do?
Quinn: see us
Ethan: Talk with us
Colby: Doing workouts
9. What does your mom do when you are not home?
Quinn: cleans, eats, takes naps
Ethan: work, have parties with other people
Colby: be sad, she just lays in her bed and does work. she also goes to work.
10. When mom becomes famous, what will it be for?
Quinn: A good job taking care of us
Ethan: Being a nurse or winning the lottery
Colby: Taking good care of us
11. What is your mom really good at?
Quinn: coloring, painting nails
Ethan: being a nurse
Colby: making stuff, helping building legos
12. What is your mom not good at?
Quinn: keeping her bedroom door open
Ethan: I don't know anything you're not good at. Sometimes when we go shopping you forget to get something like bread so we have to go back and get it another day.
Colby: not helping us build legos, she's good at not spanking us
13. What does your mom do for a job?
Quinn: nurse practitioner
Ethan: being a nurse
Colby: works. She has a work where she helps people
14. What is your mom's favorite food?
Quinn: ice cream, sandwiches, because you always make that for work
Ethan: vegetables
Colby: gross stuff, mac and cheese with pork stirred in it, things that looks yummy to grown ups but not to kids, like soups.
15. What makes you proud of your mom?
Quinn: Taking good care of us
Ethan: You make dinner for us, you get us in bed
Colby: Giving me good stuff for my birthday
16. If your mom were a cartoon character, who would she be?
Quinn: Strawberry Shortcake
Ethan: Diary of a Wimpy Kid - the mom
Colby: Dora
17. What do you and your mom do together?
Quinn: play games, go to the playground, sometimes get nails done together
Ethan: go shopping
Colby: play with bubbles, musical chairs
18. How are you and your mom the same?
Quinn: hair color, eyes, ears pierced, we like doing people's hair
Ethan: we both have white skin
Colby: we like being nice
19. How are you and your mom different?
Quinn: you like those sandals and I don't
Ethan: you're a girl, I'm a boy
Colby: you are a girl, I am a boy
20. How do you know your mom loves you?
Quinn: Because she takes care of us, tucks us into bed
Ethan: She kisses us and hugs us
Colby: she likes me. She does good things with us like play with us, gives us a sticker chart
21. Where is your mom's favorite place to go?
Quinn: Maine, Florida, Target
Ethan: the park, the alligator place that's far away, Maine
Colby: work, and at home where it is quiet
Hearing their responses offered me some insight to the things that they notice. For one, I am so thankful that they feel loved well-cared for. Not that I was overly doubtful, but to hear all of them say it feels good. Other things that they said, like my bedroom door being shut, or not making Ethan laugh, make me more aware of little things that I could do that might make them feel more whole. Other things, like my favorite foods and Colby saying I like mac and cheese with pork stirred in, seem totally random. In fact, I don't think I've ever - or would ever- eat something of the sort.
Just the same, it was a fun experience, and it was a nice way to spend a few minutes of alone time with each of my little darlings.
Monday, July 11, 2011
Expo-zay
I mean, really -
1. Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship . . .ok I guess this is understandable for a recent divorcee . . .
2. A Mirthful Spirit: Embracing Laughter for Wellness . . .ok, she understands the role of humor and happiness . . .that's healthy.
3. Just Tell Me What to Say: Sensible Tips and Scripts for Perplexed Parents . . . Uh-oh, perplexed? No words? . . .eeks.
4. The Self-Aware Parent. . . .ok, she's trying . . .
5. Insightful Parenting . . . ok, she's really trying . . .
6. The Five Love Languages of Children . . .not so bad here, seems kinda normal . . .
7. Why Men Love Bitches . . . WHAT?
8. Lost in the Wild . . .um, a metaphor for her life, perhaps?
9. How to Talk to Kids will Listen & Listen so Kids Will Talk . . . she obviously doesn't feel heard or know how to make herself clear. There seems to be a pattern here.
And finally:
10. Half Broke Horses . . .um, another metaphor? Am I that horse? I just looked up how to break a horse. The first steps in breaking a horse are to "Catch the horse. Carry your halter, and slowly approach the horse. Talk to the horse in a low voice while gently rubbing her neck. Then, slowly put the lead around her neck so she can't get away . . ." Oh my . . .Good grief!
So that's my life, defined, in the land of self-help and metaphorical fiction these days.
Kid Talk
Me: "Uhhh . . . (slow to process) . . . Oh! I think you mean tomato juice" then I chuckle at his word scramble.
Quinn: "That's so gross. What if it gets in your eyes?"
Me: "It would probably sting. So you'd want to be careful."
Ethan: "How long do you stink like a skunk if you git sprayed?"
Me: "That's a good question . . .maybe a few days . . . but I don't really know. You have to scrub really hard with the tomato juice."
Ethan: "What if you smelled like that for a year?"
Me: "You wouldn't have many friends."
Colby: "What if I get sprayed?"
Me: "I'd keep you in your room and only let you out to pee."
Colby: (Laughing). "What if I had to poop?"
Me: "Ok, you could come out to poop too."
Quinn, Ethan, Colby: LAUGHING. "What if a dog gits sprayed?"
Me: "Same thing as us. Tomato juice bath."
Them: "Eeeeeewwwww."
Jamberry
Sunday, July 10, 2011
Berry Good Weekend
Wednesday, July 6, 2011
Strawberries 'n Cream
Fresh strawberries, sliced
Paired with these . . .
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Chicken Sandwich
Talk about deeeee--licious!










